I wasnt' sure what to call this one, it was really just something that popped into my head that i wanted to share but anyways! Here it is:
Kids are to overprotected today, I bet if kids were exposed to things early and then warned, they wouldn’t be curious and get in to trouble later. But you can’t warn them constantly. I mean when you hound kids to much about something they just stop listening. I mean, the drug week thing? It’s okay to do that you know every once in a while but when you always hear “Smoking is bad for you don’t do it blah blah blah” you know they start thinking “If it’s that bad I wanna know what it’s like” Or “Bad? That’s cool” Or even “you know they hound me so much about this maybe smoking isn’t all that bad” Or “This is just overprotective parenting and they’re making a big deal out of nothing” Other times when you tell kids specifically NOT to do something, out of curiosity they’ll wonder what your hiding and they’ll go find out and do it anyways. It's just kinda how it is. And parents may say "I don't need you telling me how to raise my kid" But you know, i think a kid is the best way to figure out how to parent. Knowing how they feel about things may help parents understand their kid, because i don't know but for some reason it's like... weird to be spilling out every detail about your life to your parents... i don't know how to explain it anybetter but you know what i'm talking about right? Kids don't like to be open about everything to their parents, (and i TOTALLY understand this). And i'm sure being a parent sometimes isn't easy but you know. If they don't know what's going on, they can't help. But i find that sometimes, we don't tell because we don't want their help. Which is hard to except for some parents i think but that's just how it is... wow i'm probably really boring right now...
Kids are to overprotected today, I bet if kids were exposed to things early and then warned, they wouldn’t be curious and get in to trouble later. But you can’t warn them constantly. I mean when you hound kids to much about something they just stop listening. I mean, the drug week thing? It’s okay to do that you know every once in a while but when you always hear “Smoking is bad for you don’t do it blah blah blah” you know they start thinking “If it’s that bad I wanna know what it’s like” Or “Bad? That’s cool” Or even “you know they hound me so much about this maybe smoking isn’t all that bad” Or “This is just overprotective parenting and they’re making a big deal out of nothing” Other times when you tell kids specifically NOT to do something, out of curiosity they’ll wonder what your hiding and they’ll go find out and do it anyways. It's just kinda how it is. And parents may say "I don't need you telling me how to raise my kid" But you know, i think a kid is the best way to figure out how to parent. Knowing how they feel about things may help parents understand their kid, because i don't know but for some reason it's like... weird to be spilling out every detail about your life to your parents... i don't know how to explain it anybetter but you know what i'm talking about right? Kids don't like to be open about everything to their parents, (and i TOTALLY understand this). And i'm sure being a parent sometimes isn't easy but you know. If they don't know what's going on, they can't help. But i find that sometimes, we don't tell because we don't want their help. Which is hard to except for some parents i think but that's just how it is... wow i'm probably really boring right now...
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I agree. Teenagers today (and I'm not trying to make a sweeping assertation) generally don't like to listen to their parent's guidance. Teenagers can tend to go the opposite way. So there are boundaries for telling the kids what to do and what not to do, but giving them evidence of the consequences of some wrong actions will SHOW them that it is wrong. That is a lot more powerful than just TELLING them that it's wrong.
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